Elle’s Diary: When Being Superwoman Isn’t Enough

o there’s always a bump in the road…Or two, or three, or maybe just a big ass boulder that we can’t seem to get around. This is where the depressing Facebook posts come from. When we reach this bump in the road that seems impossible to get out of. This is usually when you think you have done everything right and maybe have been rewarded in some kind of way, in my case a promotion, and then you are hit with bad news. Maybe it’s not even bad news maybe it’s just an added stress that takes you right back to square one after you worked so hard to get to square two. Get it? My point being that it never fails that something is always going to come up and as put together as we seem, it sucks always having to be Superwoman.

I’ve reached my depressing Facebook moment recently with having zero luck finding a place of my own. I live in San Diego, California and if you are not familiar with this place I will sum it up for you: It is an expensive whore…Good to look at, you can have a lot of fun but it will cost you.┬áThis is just minor but I think these situations seem bigger because we work so hard, three jobs to be exact, and we get stuck in a stand still. I gave up my love of shopping for 30 days to cut costs and save only to have a bill replace that. I got a promotion at two jobs and then I owed taxes so that pay raise just evened out with bills. You might be a mother of three working hard to make ends meet or a full time student working part time to make a living, no situation is the same but we all struggle at one point. Maybe even a lot.

So what do we do? I don’t know about you but I don’t even have time to cry when I’m stressed because that takes up time that I could be working to pay another bill. We could all live the bare minimum but honestly I’d rather live this one life. Or we could start looking at what we already have. I do have a current place with my family that I’m staying at and even though it’s not my ideal situation, it’s something. I do have a guy who is extremely supportive and has shown me what genuine love is. I do have my health…well most of it, I can’t be held responsible for my sanity when PMS strikes. I don’t have to sit around and stare at my bills or sit and think about what’s due. Instead I’m going to keep looking for places, keep paying off bills and since I get an hour long lunch break I’m going to walk up the street and get my toes done because I want to.

What do you do when being Superwoman isn’t enough. Just be you. Hey even Superman took a break as Clark Kent once in a while.

“Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.” –Kevyn Aucoin


Retail Therapy: 30 Days of Shopping Detox

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What happened if the world stood still? What if the end of days was tomorrow?…No just kidding but this is what my next 30 days are going to feel like. If you know me then you know that I am an extreme shopaholic. So, after a very successful 30 day skin detox, I have decided to go on a retail detox. This comes from a very obvious reason of, simply put…I have a problem. But it also comes from me wanting to do more. I am ready to travel. I want to pay up and pay off some debt like student loans and credit cards. I cut my retail spending fund in half at the beginning of the year and now more than half way through the year, I was able to put together a whole summer concert series for myself with the extra money. Now I’m ready to see what I can get done when I completely cut out that fund.

This little trial is going to be similar to my skin detox because I had to build the habit. I had to cut out bad things and add healthy alternatives. I plan to do the same with this detox. I am going to cut out spending on the shoes, clothes, make up, purses, etc and add that extra money to my savings, bills and travel funds. The good thing is that since I am a low-key hoarder I don’t have to worry about running out of anything. I am both excited and scared of this challenge but then again it is called a challenge for a reason. I have made my last retail purchase for the next 30 days today, of course, and cannot make any more of those purchases until the 1st of August. I will post updates on my progress and techniques I am using as well as try to not completely lose my mind. Stay tuned.

My name is Elle and I am a shopaholic.